Initiative is the word.

To my opinion, it's a trend or rather a tradition/habit for us to hang around with the same group of people for the past few years. Since it's a gathering, it means that we haven't been meeting up for quite some time. It's very naturally for us to talk to the same gender as we will feel more comfortable & i think we will have more topics to talk to.

i don't think teasing is a problem to the girls. We are all grown up adults & we girls believe the guys will not be so childish to tease us using primary/secondary school methods. The most the guy will tease the girl about her fat-ness la or so. haha~ Thats nothing la. If the teasing is the truth, wad are we afraid of? the most we ask them to shut up. So we are definiately not afraid of any teasing.

The christmas gathering was just a few hours. It was filled with games, singing, eating. I believe not only the girls, the guys will also think that time is not enough if we were to catch up with everyone of us. I don't think sitting in a big circle is a good way for communicate. There are 25 of us in the room, and if we were to sit in 1 big circle, i think it will be even hard to communicate. We are not going to shout across the room and chat as the music is quite loud & not going to bend forward or backwards to talk to the person beside u. Another reason is i can't move the chairs & tables into a big circle as well. It damm heavy & tedious for me to move into 1 big circle. There are more than 40 chairs in the room & i have to figure how to arrange the remaining chairs as we only need 25 chairs. It's really tough for me to move alone. Luckily mingzhi came to help when he reached the place, if not, we really had insufficient time to arrange it. Thanks MingZhi! Actually, if u notice, we can fill up half of the room & we can still chat if all of us sit together in that area.

No matter what the layout of the sitting is, how good is the arrangement is, we will eventually mingle around if we really want to interact with each other. It's the matter of whether we want to do it anot. So let's dun push the blame to the shyness, teasing or no topic. The word we should be talking about is "INITIATIVE" . With initiative, there will not be any communication problems. Even if we are to sit together, without initiative, the problem will still be there. girls will tok to the girls, guys will tok to the guys. If we are still unable to take the initiative to communicate, i guess we have to implement a rule in our next gathering.

Yes, it's not a big deal & we are not going to die if we talk to our opposite sex. I guess those people who "tease" telvin knows what is going on. I believe they have a reason for saying him, not teasing him. We might have to learn 1 thing from telvin, it's his initiative. It's not what telvin has said, " Telvin's Spirit of able to handle those teasing". Cos i guess everyone has the ability to handle it. Telvin knows who are the people he wants to talk to during or outside the party. At least he has taken the initiative to approach them. Thats a good point but it can be a bad point as well. Maybe this is the reason why those people who would want to say him about that. They "teased" him because they know him well. Different people have different thinking & perspective. They are all grown up adults & i'm sure they're mature enough to say something before they speak. so they are not "teasing" telvin in a primary school method.

Cheers`,
Meiyun